How to bring up a paternity test without offending my wife?
I'm sort of divided on this and I think its better to be safe. Wife is due in June. I was travelling a lot during the time of conception and I am kind of unsure of what that means. I don't have any evidence she was cheating but it could be possible. I want a paternity test prior to signing the birth certificate. I'm just afraid my wife will take it the wrong way if I bring it up. How do I approach the subject without being offensive?
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I personally don't think there is a way, because I find it offensive. With my last pregnancy, my husband was gone a lot for work and during the time of conception, he was only home for about 3 days and that's all it took. He made a joke when I told him I was pregnant, "By who?" but that was it and he never has ever said anything about it. If he did ask me for a paternity test I would have been very offended and angry. I understand your concern but if she has not done anything to lead you to believe she cheated, why would you do that? That's your wife, I just don't think that should even cross your mind.
How to get a greedy dad to give more child support?
Hello everyone can you guys help me my kids dad makes a lot of money and lives at home with his parents they pay all the bills. He only gives me 400 a month for the kids he is really greedy even when it comes to the kids. How can I ask him for more money without going to court? I am scared to ask for more because he gets violent at times.
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Write a monthly budget for the kids in a great detail, and comment on what is missing/needed and how much more will be enough, thank him and make a copy. Mail/send it to him. If it doesn't work, the copy and the need will make the case in the court.
How to deal with deployed husband who got a few lap dances?
My husband left for deployment in November and about a month ago he confessed that he had gone to a strip club and received a couple lap dances. I don't think it's appropriate for him to have another girl all over him like that. I am having trouble moving past this and we still have a few months of deployment left. Any advice?
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You're right...it's not "appropriate"...however, you need to decide how much of an issue to make of it, and when it's time to put it behind you and move forward...
It's tough being apart...I was married to a guy in the AF years ago...he was sent to Italy for a year and I stayed in the states...when he came home (after not having seen each other or the entire year) he had a hickey on his neck and her picture in his wallet...
If you two love each other, you both need to be strong and be faithful...since he confessed his behavior he apparently wants absolution from you (he told you either out of guilt or because he feared someone else would tell you)...so, I assume you discussed it and the chances of it happening again (or any type of intimate contact with another woman)...how strongly do you feel it won't happen again???
If you feel he is remorseful that you are upset by his behavior, and that he won't repeat it (because it's inappropriate for a man in a relationship) then put the incident behind you for good and move on...if you mistrust him because of this, then you two need couples counseling or you need to find a way to regain the trust, or your marriage is in jeapordy...
How to deal with a job I totally hate but pays decent in a bad economy?
I am able to live comfortably but I hate it at my job. Everyday I want to cry my boss is a totally b**** and I am fed up being treated like slave. What to do and how to cope!! I want to call out sick at least once of month because I hate it... Ahgh
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we all have to put up with things we don't like at work. but its work, and we have jobs, something in this economy we should be grateful for. you said your pay is good, that alone something that should keep you working there. you only have two choices. stay there and look for another job, or quit and look for another job. not much else you can do. calling out sick once a month btw is not a good choice!!
How to have sex with wife, if the child sleeps in between papa and mama?
Kids fear of darkness and also need to taken care off, so they sleep with mama, in between papa and mama. How then papa and mama can enjoy their life? We can't have sex, while the kid is in the bed, we won't get the mood. Next during day, we are busy in other life activities.
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Leave the room when he falls asleep .Go with the wife in bathroom, kitchen couch anywhere and get it over with. Then come back in room and sleep.
How to deal with a spouse that pinned me down and was arrested for domestic violence?
He was very drunk, pinned me down, yanked me off bed. DID NOT STRIKE ME. This is the first time something like this happened. What do I do? Work on our marriage? Leave him?
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Does he have an alcohol problem? If yes, then make his going into a treatment program a condition of you giving him another chance.
A non-negotiable condition.
How to marry my girlfriend that lives in Europe?
I wanted to marry my girl so badly, and we want too..but the problem is she lives in Europe. Both of us don't have the money to see each other. We have been together for over 2 years.
What should I do? How does marriage work internationally?
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Even if there IS a way to marry a person who's in another country, what good would it do you? You'd still be thousands of miles apart!
I think what you need to do is reassess your career and get to serious work on your financial situation!
How to tell my boyfriend that I don't want to live together before marriage?
I want to marry him eventually, but I don't want to live together before that. However if he asks me to move in, I don't want to reject him by just saying no or scare him by saying I want to be married first (he might think it's just a ploy to get him to propose). I want to get married only when he and I are both ready. How do I respond if asks me to move in?
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You make the rules sweetheart THATS how it works...
He will do what you want..if thats what you want...
but you need to tell him.
You tell him that is the way it is...that is the way I am... this is what I believe
I love you and if you love me you will understand that...and he will...
He WONT like it, but that wasnt the question was it? lol
good luck and way to the stickup for your beliefs!!
How to keep the conversation from turning to my wife after sex?
I've been having sex withmy wife's sister for about 8 months and its great except for this one problem. After we finish and we are laying there, for some reason the subject of my wife comes up. It makes things kind of awkward. How can I politely tell my lover that I would rather not talk about my wife. It's not that I'm ashamed or embarassed, it's just that I want to talk about different stuff.
Thanks
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Just shove your **** in her mouth
How to punish my bf for being careless?
He loves me but is a damn careless. What to do? M fed up
by the word punishing i meant to teach him a lesson.
I tried to make him understand, he din't he think he is careful.
And how do you know in what situation i am? I just asked a question. If you can't ans it simply then stay away and stop trolling for 2pts. Dumping is not an option, i want to make him realise. I have tried every soft things, didn't work so now i choose the hard path.
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Don't try to punish him, he won't understand what you're trying to do, and he will think it must be something else or someone else. Men do not speak the same language a chicks. Read "Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus". That was a real eye opener for me.
